Traditionally Muslims searched for a life partner only among their relatives and friends. But now Muslims are spread out and are living all over the world. Present day Muslims are forced to turning to the matrimonial services more and more in their search for a suitable spouse. These matrimonial services cater to Muslims living around the world.
It is created for the sole purpose of providing matrimonial services for Muslim men and women of all ages. They are definitely not Muslim dating services as some may mistakenly consider it. Islamic marriage is considered as a religious requirement which gives companionship and protection from sin. For women it offers status and security in some traditional Muslim communities. Most Muslim parents take the responsibility of finding a suitable partner for their son or daughter. For the Muslims living in far off countries, choices are limited.
So they have few choices than turning to the services of these matrimonial agencies. One has to be extremely cautious while searching for an eligible suitor since their darker side is never advertised. Generally, only their money, rank, beauty, educational qualification, occupation, religion and few positive points are taken into consideration.
Matrimonial advertisements can many times be misleading. So screening and cross checking are absolutely essential before taking a decision. Asking a third person to get information about his character, habits, family background, financial situation, is a usual routine. But this can be a very embarrassing situation to the person enquired when the suitor is known to have a unsuitable background and this is more so in communities where it is not considered appropriate to talk of others negatives even if it means hiding it or resorting to a "white lie". Imams can help to a great extent when it comes to the piety of the individual. But a great deal needs to be done by the concerned parents to search for unrevealed truths.
Both the prospective partners parents are expected to follow the Islamic guidelines laid down while meeting. The concerned individuals are never to meet alone without a chaperone. The meetings are conducted in a business manner so that in case of failures to click, it does not hurt both the parties. It is within limits of decency that they are not loud mouthed or too pushy for the comfort of others. Again it is ideal that they do not form an emotional bonding before finalizing in case the proposal does not come through. Some Muslim online matrimonial services give tips and advices to choose a partner.
Sometimes arrangements are made for both the parties to meet at a common place. But this is rare, since in most of the cases, the concerned people make all the arrangements. All the terms and conditions like dowry and whether the girl can work after the marriage should be discussed during such meetings, before the Muslim marriage is finalized, to avoid conflicts later.
All said and done, all is well that ends well. So these Muslim matrimonial services can help a great deal to forge a start but the concerned parties need to do a lot of ground work to start a marriage in Islam.
Muslim matrimonial services are being used these days to do all that parents and relatives cannot do properly in weddings.